Does it hurt to give birth
Keywords: what being pregnant is really like, pregnancy, giving birth, birth
Description: Yes, you can drink in moderation and have sex while pregnant. And more #realtalk from two new moms.
How do you have sex in your third trimester? Does the skin between the vagina and the butthole actually rip to form one VaginaButthole? Can you drink at ALL? Two actual new moms answer these questions and more.
Woman B: So a few days after I took that first negative test, I woke up SO nauseous and disoriented. I had vertigo all day and actually hugged the walls of apartment buildings on my walk back to CVS for another test. I remained woozy for about four months but only threw up once in the middle of the night, in bed. Like woke up to puke in my mouth. Daily nausea was so bad I couldn't read menus or be around strong scents. I stopped wearing perfume because it made me so sick.
Woman A: Bigger boobs very quickly. Sometimes felt sort of nauseous and would HAVE to drink some ginger ale and have a croissant. Slightly more tired, I guess?
Woman A: Like a little alien is growing in your body! Strange, surreal, at times cool. But as if your body is no longer your own — because it isn't. It's TWO PEOPLE.
Woman B: It felt like being invaded by an alien. I did not love it. If I ever thought about it too hard, I got really creeped out by the idea of another person living inside my body. Of course there's all the nausea, headaches, fatigue, and all that. But my daughter was a SUPER active baby. I felt her from 14 weeks and she also got the hiccups constantly. Plus, I had painful trapped gas from time to time. It was basically like being super constipated with horrible gas except it was actually caused by a living, breathing, hiccuping human being inside my abdomen.
Woman A: Milk Duds became very appealing. Any and all things Mediterranean like cacik yogurt dip, tzatziki, that sort of thing. But nothing I didn't like before.
Woman B: I was more depressed because I had to go off of my antidepressants to get pregnant, but the depression wasn't caused by pregnancy hormones or anything. And I had very few cravings. Toward the end I liked ice cream, I think because I hadn't gained much weight the first two trimesters and my body was like, "COME ON!" One strange craving: I chewed on ice. Like huge tumblers full of ice. I Googled it and someone said this was to regulate my body temp, but it just tasted and felt good. And then when I had her, the craving went away.
Woman A: It came in waves. Generally about the same, but sometimes I wanted to every single solitary day, intensely. Other times so tired, I didn't even conceive of it.
Woman B: Less in the beginning because I was so nauseous and also because I started falling asleep at 9 p.m. no matter where I was. And then toward the end I got horny again, probably because of the physiological changes in late pregnancy (you're all engorged and have lots of pressure on your pelvis). We had sex a lot in the last trimester. I masturbated pretty much like normal after the first trimester. Since giving birth, however, I have no libido. I heard it was supposed to come back after I stopped breastfeeding, but I'm still waiting.
Was it harder to have sex because of your belly? What were the adjustments you needed to make in bed, if any?
Woman A: Yes, it becomes harder as your belly gets bigger. After a while, missionary is impossible because he would be crushing your belly/fetus. So you have to do woman on top or spoon or some variety of mounting him while he's sitting down or something.
Woman B: It was slightly harder? Doggy style was actually really difficult toward the end because my belly was so big and heavy that it hurt to be on all fours and have it hanging down. We either did it with me on my side or my back. But blow jobs were hot because I had huge boobs and I could do it at an angle where you couldn't tell I was pregnant; I was just all mouth and boobs. And him going down on me was funny because I couldn't see him. )